You’re Not Lying, You’re Leading:
- pamelahorton
- Dec 17, 2025
- 4 min read
The Neuroscience and Biblical Truth of Rewiring Your Thoughts
I didn’t plan to write this, but after three separate client conversations that asked me the same question this week, “Isn’t it lying to say something I don’t believe yet?”
I knew it need to be written.
If you’ve ever tried to speak something kind, hopeful, or healing over yourself and felt like a fraud... this one’s for you.
What Your Brain Believes, It Builds
Your brain is designed to change. Through neuroplasticity, new neural pathways are formed every time you repeat a thought, good or bad.
“Neurons that fire together, wire together.” ~ Donald Hebb
Your internal narrative becomes your neurological norm, not because it’s true, but because it’s practiced.
And you can change the story.
Emily, 36, Executive Client“Before big meetings, I spiraled: ‘I’ll mess this up.’ I began using breathwork and reframing: ‘I’ve prepared. My worth isn’t in performance.’Within a month, my anxiety dropped dramatically. I now lead with peace.”
Scripture Doesn’t Call This Lying. It Calls It Renewal
The Apostle Paul says:
“Let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think.”~ Romans 12:2 (NLT)
David modeled it, too:
“Why am I discouraged? Why is my heart so sad? I will put my hope in God!” ~ Psalm 42:5
This isn’t pretending. It’s realignment. Redirection. We’re not denying reality, we’re declaring deeper truth.
James, 42, Father“Guilt and fear kept me from teaching my daughters the resilience they needed. It strained our relationship, and over time, they came to believe they needed rescuing and even felt entitled to it. I started practicing: ‘I keep the best boundaries for the best outcomes.” It didn’t just change my thinking, it revived my family.”
“But It Feels Fake…”
It feels fake not because it’s false, but because it’s new.
Think of physical therapy: you don’t wait for your leg to feel strong to use it again. You use it, and strength returns over time.
Same with your thoughts.
Tasha, 29, Trauma Survivor“I believed I was broken beyond repair. But with Scripture and neuroscience tools, I began saying: ‘God is restoring what trauma tried to destroy.’My panic attacks dropped. I found hope again.”
Say This, Not That
❌ “I’m fine.” → ✅ “I’m not okay yet, but I’m growing stronger every day.”
❌ “I can’t do this.” → ✅ “This is hard… and I’m still moving forward.”
❌ “Nothing will change.” → ✅ “Change is slow, but I’m seeing progress.”
Rewiring with Integrity (Not Denial)
Try these three steps:
1. Name what’s real, then redirect.
“I feel overwhelmed. But I’m learning to respond with more grace.”
2. Use truth-based, growth-oriented language.
“I may not believe this fully yet… but I’m open. I’m practicing.”
3. Let your words shape your growth, not your fear.
Christian example: “I am loved, even when I feel unworthy. God says I am His.” or “God says I’m loved. My brain is learning to agree with Him.”
Non Christian example: “This may feel foreign now, but I’m building new neural pathways every time I speak it.”
Research Insight:A Baylor University study found that pairing Scripture with cognitive reframing reduced anxiety more effectively than secular methods alone.One participant wrote: “Replacing ‘I’m alone’ with ‘God is with me’ changed everything, emotionally and neurologically.”
What Feels Familiar Isn’t Always What’s True
“I’m too much.”“I always mess this up.”“I can’t change.”
Those thoughts might feel true… but they’re just rehearsed.God’s truth, even when it feels foreign, is what makes us free.
“Faith doesn’t pretend. It practices truth until your soul catches up.”“Neuroplasticity is God’s built-in mercy in your biology.”
Let’s Practice
Finish this sentence, honestly and hopefully:
“I’m not there yet, but I’m becoming someone who…”
Let that be your reframe. Your anchor. Your start.
Want Support?
Would you like help crafting affirmations that feel honest, biblical, and brain-based? How about a free copy of my: Rewiring Your Mind: A Truth-Based Toolkit for Faith + Neuroscience?
Email “Truth-based toolkit” to pamela@coachpamelahorton.com for your copy.
You’re Not Lying. You’re Leading.
You’re not lying when you speak hope that your soul is still learning to believe.You’re leading your mind gently and faithfully toward freedom.
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Thank you for being here and for walking with me on the path of healing and holiness.
With care,Pamela
All for His glory.
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